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A HEAVILY pregnant has been left floundering after her fiance of three years told her he “wants to go on a break”.

She explained that the pair had been in a good relationship until recently, as they’ve been suffering from a “lot of external stresses”, including a stalking and harassment case against a neighbour.

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“In the past few months this has intensified and my partner has been trying to shoulder most of it so it doesn’t cause any issues with myself or the baby as we all know excessive stress can be harmful for babies development,” she wrote in the post on Mumsnet.

She added that she had noticed their relationship had “dwindled” and they are “more similar to being roommates at this stage rather than being in a supportive relationship”

Her fiance had sat her down recently and explained that he was struggling to stay on top of everything, and “couldn’t give me what I was needing”.

While he said he would have suggested her going to stay with family while he “sorted his head out”, they live two hours away and it wasn’t an option considering she’s 36 weeks pregnant.

“I had said that obviously wasn’t an option given my due date and I shouldn’t have to leave my home for him to ‘get better’, but I can understand that he needs to make some sort of change to feel more mentally well,” she continued.

They are now trialling “some sort of odd ‘separation'”, with him moving into the spare room, and saying “he doesn’t know if we should be together anymore and he wants to just see if he can ‘get himself back’ before the baby arrives”.

Things have become even more complicated by the fact that he’s “made a new friend”.

“I am usually a very tolerant, chilled out person so we can go and do separate things and I don’t mind,” she said.

“However, since he mentioned that he made this new friend (who is a female, again usually I wouldn’t have an issue with this) he has been hanging out with her every night after work, so finishing at 5:30, showered, changed and out the house for 6pm and then not home until 9pm some nights I’ve started feeling very sad, lonely, unwanted and jealous.

“I told him the other day I had resigned myself to knowing that it was over between us and I gave him my ring back.

“He had asked me to not give up on him and assured me this person was just a friend.

“She has no interest in a relationship as her fiance recently left her at the altar.”

But she said if it “was the other way around”, she wonders if he “would he like me spending lots of time with some attractive man while he couldn’t do things at home”.

And while she’s hoping that “everything will settle when the baby gets here”, she’s also well aware that “babies rarely keep people together”.

She concluded her post by asking for advice as to whether she should try and out “more boundaries in place” for the separation, such as using different bathrooms and not using terms of endearment.

But the majority of people in the comments section urged the woman to come to terms with the fact that her fiance may be cheating on her.

Here's why I love being a young mum

Tracy Kiss, who fell pregnant at 19, has revealed what she believes are the pros of being a young mother.

The personal trainer and blogger, from Buckinghamshire, believes women who give birth in their teens make BETTER mothers than those in their 30s.

She claims young mums snap back into shape quicker, have more energy and relate more easily to their children, meaning they’re better behaved and happier.

Tracy told Fabulous: “Women who become first-time mums in their teens make better parents than those in their 30s or 40s.

“I believe if I’d been 10 or so years older before becoming a mother then I wouldn’t have the relationship I have with my children now.

“For a start, being older I would have had less energy and therefore less patience.

“I wouldn’t be as enthusiastic to speak to people after months of sleepless nights as I was in my teens.

“My body snapped back to its pre-pregnancy size through fitness post-birth, which in turn gave me the confidence to date and find love again. I’ve never been happier than I am now at the age of 30 with two children.

“If I’d have been alone at 40 with a newborn baby I’d be more tired, less happy with my body, less energetic and far more stressed from the shock of living my life for myself instead of putting others first. Sometimes age and the innocence of ignorance is a good thing.

“As a teen mum I just got on with it, found my feet and became responsible and capable because at the time I didn’t know any different.”

“Kick him out. He’s having an affair and you’re about to have a baby,” one wrote.

“You deserve better than this. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.”

“I think basically he’s fallen for someone else but realises if he admits that everyone will know he’s a b**tard,” another added.

“I’d get him out of the house. Get family to support you and plan for a life for you and the baby without him.”

“Tell him to f**k the f**k off, he’s treating you like s**t. How dare he?” a third raged.

“This is utterly ridiculous behaviour.

“Honestly, what is wrong with men?”

“He doesn’t get to be a Fairweather partner, he’s either all in or all out, he’s too old for all this f**king about and ‘finding himself’,” someone else agreed.

As another wrote: “Yeah he wants to see if this other relationship will work out before fully dumping you

“Bin him!”

RICHARD ECKERSLEY once known for his brief stint under Sir Alex Ferguson in 2009 has now embarked on a very different career path. 

The Red Devils academy graduate has transitioned from football to running a zero-waste shop in Devon.

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The Manchester United forgotten man made his first-team debut for in an FA Cup match against Tottenham on January 24, 2009, as a substitute.

Having joined United as a nine-year-old, he achieved his lifelong dream of making his first-team debut stepping off the bench at Old Trafford.

The former defender played alongside United legends Paul Scholes, Cristiano Ronaldo and Roy Keane.

Eckersley told Manchester Evening News: “It was an awe-inspiring kind of moment.

“I was playing with people I had watched growing up and I was giving them the ball. It was a really surreal moment.”

Three days later, he made his league debut in a 5-0 win over West Bromwich Albion.

Then on March 1, 2009, he was on the bench for the League Cup Final, which United won, earning him his first career medal.

But his time with the senior squad did not last long as he left Old Trafford at the end of the season and signed a four-year contract with Burnley.

And the 35-year-old reflecting on his football said he regrets leaving Old Trafford so early on in his career.

Eckersley continued: “I think the decision to leave United was probably too early for me.

“I think I probably should have stayed on and developed at Carrington under the coaches that I was already working with, because I was making steady progress.

“I think the jump from the cusp of one of the world’s greatest teams, you could say at that time, to Burnley, who had just got promoted but were going to be a struggling team in the Premier League was a massive jump.”

After moving to Burnley Eckersley’s career took a different turn.

He had loan spells with Plymouth, Bradford, and Bury before crossing the Atlantic to join MLS side Toronto in 2011, making the move permanent the following season.

The move to the MLS was a much-needed change for the Salford-born star, who had lost his love for the game in the UK.

Eckerlsey said: “I was desperate just to play and desperate to enjoy football, because at the time I wasn’t enjoying football.

“I was playing in League Two, I was going on loan to Bradford, Bury and places like that.

“Even though it was competitive football, I just wasn’t enjoying the football side of things because I enjoyed playing football and how we used to play at United.”

But at 26, after leaving Toronto and having stints with New York Red Bulls and Oldham, Eckersley decided to retire from football.

Seeking a new direction that would bring him closer to his family, he chose an uncommon path for ex-footballers by opening a zero-waste shop.

Passionate about vegan and organic food, Eckersley and his wife founded Earth.Food.Love, the UK’s first zero-waste shop, located in Totnes, Devon.

He added: “It gives us a purpose, I think that is the biggest thing. I love letting my children see that.

“I think that is the biggest thing: seeing their mum and their dad enjoying what they do. We’re all intermingling and they are never more than five minutes away from me all the time. That is important for me.”

THE anti-immigration riots that erupted across Britain this summer sent shockwaves across the nation.

Violence broke out outside Suites Hotel in Kirkby, Knowsley, in Merseyside, when around 300 people gathered outside the hotel, which was providing temporary accommodation for asylum seekers.

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It was after the far-right group English Defence League (EDL) called for a protest.

Seven men have since been jailed for their part in the riot.

Meanwhile, a stabbing in Southport, which saw three young children killed at a holiday club in July, led to further widespread anger and fear, and far-right groups used it to stir anti-immigrant sentiments and provoke violence​​ across the UK.

More than 1,200 arrests and nearly 800 charges had been made in relation to the unrest so far.

Now, a new BBC Three documentary, Small Town, Big Riot, uncovers just how these violent riots started, fuelled by local Facebook groups.

Shockingly, journalist Mobeen Azhar, who presents the two-part series, discovered that members of far-right groups often start by pretending to be locals innocently organising community events or getting rid of old furniture.

In an exclusive interview, he tells us: “In these groups, people might be organising a bake sale. They might be saying, ‘I’m getting rid of a dining table, or I’m getting rid of my old pram.’

“They don’t necessarily have hundreds of thousands of followers but they’ve got local followers. What will happen is you’ll get two or three people that enter these groups, and they just start agitating.

“So at first it might just be a post about local housing or the local charity shop, or the fact that another food bank has opened recently, and then you’ll see over a timeline, these posts will increase, and then they’ll start talking about the threat from immigrants.

“And then you’ll see more and more people will come in, and quite quickly, these groups will go from being purely about community, swapping furniture or organising things for charity, to being explicitly anti-immigration groups.”

‘Disturbing’ memes

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Mobeen recalls a disturbing meme he saw on a Facebook group called Liverpool Enough Is Enough, which had 6,300 followers but now no longer exists.

Mobeen says: “It was an image of an inflatable boat full of people. I don’t know where the picture was taken or anything. It had no context.

“And underneath the picture had an image of a pin, and it said, ‘Would you pop the boat?’

“The comments underneath were the disturbing part, because he had lots of local people saying, ‘I’d definitely pop the boat. They deserve it.’

“You had people engaging in this stuff as if it was kind of banter or if it was acceptable. You cannot underestimate the radicalising effect it can have, because that’s what it is, it’s online radicalisation.”

He adds: “It was an open group, anyone could join. I saw that group over the time we were filming getting more and more and more extreme.”

3 killed in knife attack

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Several months into filming, riots broke out in Southport after three children, Alice da Silva Aguiar, nine, Elsie Dot Stancombe, seven, and six-year-old Bebe King were killed in a knife attack at a holiday club in July.

A 17-year-old boy called Axel Rudakubana has been charged with their murders and is set to stand trial next year.

Rudakubana, now 18, has also been charged with 10 counts of attempted murder after eight other children and two adults were seriously injured in the attack at the Hart Space, a community studio in the Meols Cop area of Southport.

Far-right groups and social media also played a significant role in escalating the situation.

Mobeen says they quickly saw that the same “sophisticated model” was being used by far-right groups, including one called Patriotic Alternative.

He says: “That model was used in Southport.

“Time and time again, we saw groups like Patriotic Alternative presenting themselves, certainly online, but even in the flesh, as local people who just had concerns.

“But I would argue strongly, and I think there’s a lot of evidence to suggest they have a very clear agenda, which is very clearly, to me, a far-right and racist agenda.”

He continues: “It is sophisticated and we shouldn’t underestimate the power of these groups in getting in touch with people who have a local following.

“They’re not kind of fully paid up ideological members of a far-right group. But that doesn’t stop their following being leaped upon.”

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The award-winning journalist also reveals how he found himself at the centre of a “live disinformation story” during filming, after an online post claimed he had been approaching teenage girls.

Mobeen says: “It was absolutely horrible. I was disgusted, but it also really illustrated that I was part of a live disinformation story.

“For months, I’d been hearing these stories about men approaching girls in the park and asking where I could verify if this had actually happened. And most of the time, overwhelmingly, evidence just never materialised.

“In this instance, I knew for a fact that myself and the team had not approached underage girls. We are so careful when we’re speaking to anyone that even looks remotely young, to say to them: ‘I’m not sure if we can speak to you, how old are you?’ before we say anything else.

“In order to put someone in a documentary, if they’re under 16, you need to get their parents’ permission. Their parents need to be there.”

He adds: “These were just complete lies that were told about myself.

“Again, they spread like wildfire and I was upset and angry about the original post but I’d say the comments underneath told me so much about the mindset of people and the lack of accountability.”

‘No responsibility’

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One of the main places where far-right memes can be found is That Scouse Kid, an anonymous account, with 42,000 followers on Instagram.

After months of contacting ther person behind the account, Mobeen got an interview with him.

He says: “There was a really interesting distinction, because I said, ‘Do you feel guilty about what’s happened?’ ‘Do you take any responsibility?’

“He makes a distinction. He says, ‘No, I don’t, because I didn’t organise the riot. I just promoted it.’

“And so my point is, a lot of these people, they perhaps didn’t get into creating memes, and they didn’t get into kind of having a following because they necessarily wanted to cause trouble.

“But I think there’s a naivety there about organisations coming in and leapfrogging off their followings and exploiting the people who are following them. And I think that’s what we saw time and time again.

“And I have to say, overwhelmingly, it tends to be working class communities where there’s a really complicated set of issues, you know, historic lack of investment, social deprivation, lack of housing, all of those things.

“And then you get people who sweep in and offer very, very simple answers to these very complicated problems.”

Small Town, Big Riot is available to watch on BBC iPlayer and on BBC Three on Monday September 23 and Tuesday September 24, at 9pm

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